Most of us can look back and remember having quite a few teachers who were fair…and some who were not-so-fair. Each one of them taught us something extremely important about life. The fair ones gave us a sense that life is sometimes fair. The unfair ones gave us wonderful opportunities to develop skills for coping with those times when it isn’t.
It’s tempting to rescue our kids when they have an unfair teacher. Nevertheless, wise parents understand that trying to make teachers change grades, give, or lower standards robs their children of important learning opportunities. Instead of rescuing, these parents empower their kids with ideas and skills. Listed below are some of the smart things these parents say:
I bet that’s got to be frustrating. What do you think you could say to your teacher?
I love you. Let me know if you would like some ideas.
Some kids decide to very nicely ask their teacher if they would be willing to talk about the problem.
Some kids decide to tell themselves that having tough teachers now will help them learn how to handle tough bosses when they are grown up.
I can see that this is really hard for you. I will love you no matter what you decide to do.
Notice that each of these statements communicates love and high expectations. Listen to our CD Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants for more ideas on how to give your kids these gifts.
Thanks for reading!
Dr. Charles Fay